Comments on: And Then I Cried! http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/ Women Who Love Women Sun, 13 Jun 2010 03:55:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Paige http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-129 Paige Thu, 14 May 2009 02:05:42 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-129 Your words are very telling....you comment that you knew you liked her...which is past tense! You say liked not loved! She should leave you alone. Are you sure you are telling her to? Are your actions and words indicating for her to elave you alone? Never fear being alone. You are your best friend and the one person you know you will live with your entire life. Relax, the right person will come by. I find that when we stop looking for the right person, they then all the sudden show up in our lives. You will be happy. Do not worry. Feel great about who you are and love life. With a little Faith everything will work out as it is supposed to. Go to sleep every night thinking about how great you are and how good you will be to your soul mate when you find her. xoxo Your words are very telling….you comment that you knew you liked her…which is past tense! You say liked not loved! She should leave you alone. Are you sure you are telling her to? Are your actions and words indicating for her to elave you alone?
Never fear being alone. You are your best friend and the one person you know you will live with your entire life. Relax, the right person will come by. I find that when we stop looking for the right person, they then all the sudden show up in our lives. You will be happy. Do not worry. Feel great about who you are and love life. With a little Faith everything will work out as it is supposed to.
Go to sleep every night thinking about how great you are and how good you will be to your soul mate when you find her.
xoxo

]]> By: Jay http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-128 Jay Thu, 14 May 2009 01:41:08 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-128 Your post really hit home with me...my girlfriend wants to get married and has been pressuring me every minute...so finally we broke up. Yet she won't leave me alone. I knew I liked her..but she was not my soulmate. But what if I never find my soulmate or she has already passed me by? I go to sleep every night wondering.. Your post really hit home with me…my girlfriend wants to get married and has been pressuring me every minute…so finally we broke up. Yet she won’t leave me alone. I knew I liked her..but she was not my soulmate. But what if I never find my soulmate or she has already passed me by? I go to sleep every night wondering..

]]> By: Paige http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-127 Paige Wed, 13 May 2009 23:46:40 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-127 Wow, my fans are getting restless... Is that a good sign??? I will make sure to hurry up and get it done! xoxo Wow, my fans are getting restless… Is that a good sign???
I will make sure to hurry up and get it done!
xoxo

]]> By: Fastercash http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-126 Fastercash Wed, 13 May 2009 23:35:52 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-126 Patiently waiting on the next chapter.. No rush.. but could you hurry up.. LOL :) Patiently waiting on the next chapter.. No rush.. but could you hurry up.. LOL :)

]]> By: Paige http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-124 Paige Mon, 11 May 2009 17:45:53 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-124 Thanks for the Twitter follow and the comment here. Hope you come back and read again. Feel free to leave comments any time. I love hearing what people think. Not to wreck the story....but no worries.....I found my way out of the Janice relationship and have foudn happiness. Come back and read my journey!! Thanks for the Twitter follow and the comment here. Hope you come back and read again. Feel free to leave comments any time. I love hearing what people think. Not to wreck the story….but no worries…..I found my way out of the Janice relationship and have foudn happiness. Come back and read my journey!!

]]> By: Sunny http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Sunny Mon, 11 May 2009 17:42:33 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-123 Hi, I am following you on Twitter. I hope you will find hapiness in your marriage and that your family will accept it. Wishing you good luck. Cool to read your story. Hi, I am following you on Twitter. I hope you will find hapiness in your marriage and that your family will accept it. Wishing you good luck. Cool to read your story.

]]> By: Paige http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-121 Paige Thu, 07 May 2009 15:12:22 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-121 It is always nice to receive comments and hear other people's experiences. It makes us not feel alone, especially in times of not so great situations. I appreciate the time you took to share your heart with me and with us all. I hope that life becomes very happy for you and you fulfill all your dreams. I hope you find your true love and soul mate. It is always nice to receive comments and hear other people’s experiences. It makes us not feel alone, especially in times of not so great situations. I appreciate the time you took to share your heart with me and with us all. I hope that life becomes very happy for you and you fulfill all your dreams. I hope you find your true love and soul mate.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/and-then-i-cried/comment-page-1/#comment-120 Rachel Thu, 07 May 2009 05:00:57 +0000 http://www.lesbiancafe.ca/?p=305#comment-120 I don't think your story is unique. I have found since coming out that these types of dynamics are prevalent between women. It is either this all encompassing consuming sort of thing or the "open" let's invite all to play. There are women out there that seem to maintain "healthy" boundaries with each other but I think it is far more difficult when trying to navigate each other in a healthy sense when it is so easy to get lost in each other. Maybe it is how easily we identify with each or how powerful emotions are when two women love each other. I don't know the answers. I do know I am right there... dealing with a similiar situation. All my friends/family were ushered out and I gladly showed them the door. I sacrificed all that I am to have "her" love me. In the end the reality that she did not possess the ability to love anyone from a place of giving smacked me in the face. She impulsively moved out of the state claiming it would be the only way she could escape us. She's been running from the truth for months now. Coming in and out of my life until several weeks ago. In the time we have been apart I began to realize her truth and inability she possesses. I began to see all that would have to be sacrificed. I stopped paying the cost required. I began living on my terms. And because of that reality, she ran far away. I could breathe a sigh of relief ... only I know she will return... once again emotionally terrorizing me pushing and pulling my heart as if to mock all that I have become. I pray for ability to close this door. I am hopeful that this time looking over my shoulder won't result in her being there as some guardian. It's difficult. As much as I know I could never fully be happy sharing a relationship with her, part of me is holding out. Love your post... it unveils truths that are familiar. And still... I cry only this time my tears find understanding. I don’t think your story is unique. I have found since coming out that these types of dynamics are prevalent between women. It is either this all encompassing consuming sort of thing or the “open” let’s invite all to play. There are women out there that seem to maintain “healthy” boundaries with each other but I think it is far more difficult when trying to navigate each other in a healthy sense when it is so easy to get lost in each other.

Maybe it is how easily we identify with each or how powerful emotions are when two women love each other. I don’t know the answers. I do know I am right there… dealing with a similiar situation. All my friends/family were ushered out and I gladly showed them the door. I sacrificed all that I am to have “her” love me. In the end the reality that she did not possess the ability to love anyone from a place of giving smacked me in the face. She impulsively moved out of the state claiming it would be the only way she could escape us. She’s been running from the truth for months now. Coming in and out of my life until several weeks ago.

In the time we have been apart I began to realize her truth and inability she possesses. I began to see all that would have to be sacrificed. I stopped paying the cost required. I began living on my terms. And because of that reality, she ran far away. I could breathe a sigh of relief … only I know she will return… once again emotionally terrorizing me pushing and pulling my heart as if to mock all that I have become.

I pray for ability to close this door. I am hopeful that this time looking over my shoulder won’t result in her being there as some guardian. It’s difficult. As much as I know I could never fully be happy sharing a relationship with her, part of me is holding out.

Love your post… it unveils truths that are familiar. And still… I cry only this time my tears find understanding.

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