Married women who love women has been a popular phrase more recently. It seems that everyone now knows someone who has been married to a man or is married to a man and who is actually either bisexual or a lesbian. Some of the women choose to stay in their marriage and have lesbian affairs and some women end their marriages to live their life as a lesbian.
I have to say that I know quite a few woman who used to be married to a man. I also find that most lesbians I know used to at least date men. I do also know a few gold star lesbians, but I find that they are few compared to lesbians who had prior relationships with the opposite sex.
Take me for example, I used to be married to a man as you found out in my last post. I knew I was not keen or even really interested in marrying a man when I got married. Why did I do it then? Well I did it probably for the same reason that many other woman do it. I was fulfilling the expectations that life had of me. Or so I thought. I was following the Jones' and trying to have the husband and two and a half kids with the house and white picket fence. So I created my Jones' life and off I went.
But something was missing. I longed for female companionship. Not just a buddy to hang out with either. I had buddies. I wanted intimacy and an emotional bond that was soft, understanding and with a woman. So I silently longed for woman who I found emotionally and physically attractive.
Then one day, a woman kissed me. The kiss led to other more intimate encounters and before I knew it I was a married woman actively loving another woman. This was the eye opening moment and turning point of the rest of my life. From that moment on I knew that now I could answer that question I previously had....Could I see myself having sex with another woman? The answer now was YES! From that point on, men for me were a thing of the past and the only thing I saw ahead of me was a lesbian life.
For the first time in my life I felt free. I felt almost lighter. I felt happier. I felt a love for life at a level that I had never felt before. I was free to be who I truly was. And so, my life as a lesbian began full steam ahead.
My sexy asian partner, Kassidy (aka Kass) has a similar story. Kass was married for twenty years. Wow! What a long time. Her ex well we all think he is an idiot and of course so does Kass now, but that is another story! Kass will tell you that she was unhappy for the last ten years of her marriage. She stayed married because it was the expected thing. She did not know how to break free.
Originally Kass wanted out of the marriage just because she was unhappy. She had no thoughts of being a lesbian initially. As time passed and she met lesbians here and there in her life, she began to see a whole new world that she had never really considered. Kass became curious about relationships with women. So she started to experiement, thus becoming a married woman who was loving women.
The outcome is obvious for Kass as her and I are together now. We live happily ever after in our home. We have a great relationship. We have amazing sex. We both admit that our past lives with men seems like a lifetime ago.
Time after time you will hear of stories like ours. Whether the lesbian used to date or used to be married, some people find it hard to comprehend the change in lifestyle. Switching teams (as the saying goes) is more and more popular these days though. It is so commonplace that I think that people are not as surprised to hear of the latest married woman that is now a lesbian. The recent change in laws in some countries that allows same sex marriages has helped increase the acceptance of same sex relationships. Likewise, television now has numerous shows where gays and lesbians are portrayed and this too has helped make the concept of same sex relationships more accepted.
There are not as many worries for woman these days that want to fulfill their desire to be a lesbian. No doubt the switch in lifestyle will stir up the gossip amongst your friends and colleagues, but I think it seems to settle quickly these days.
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Thank you for the comment. We love to hear from out readers. You bring up a great point there about how some people might perceive the change in lifestyle.
I know at least two lesbians/bisexuals who were married to men before they realized they wanted to date women. It confuses people because they think that someone WAS straight and suddenly BECAME gay when they were older. Of course, I think your statement that they just did what they were supposed to do and didn’t figure it out is more likely.